Wedding planning may reveal a very different of your bride-to-be. From crazy tantrums about the colour of the centrepieces to a complete meltdown because her bridesmaid aren’t wearing the exact same shade of pink! There’s much that can drive a good bride up the wall and then the dramatic transformation may occur… from bride to the infamous Bridezilla!

Planning a wedding can be made easier if both bride and groom agree on what each other’s responsibilities are. And that’s a special note to you ladies out there… there are times that you just need to back off and let your partner take the lead. After all, he’s getting married too! So here are some areas that you’d do well to leave alone… 

Leave the bachelors alone...

Now really, is there any reason why the groom and his groomsmen cannot have a party of their choice? So if you’ve ruled out strippers, Vegas, alcohol or any other craziness, it’s time to rethink that strategy! Let the groom decide how he wants to celebrate his last few evenings of bachelorhood. Trust and confidence in his decisions will go a long way and your groom will be glad to have you off his back.

Pssst… this doesn’t mean that a bride cannot say what she wouldn’t be comfortable with but there has to be some compromise.

Choosing the best…

He really is allowed to choose his Best Man. You may not like his best friend but that’s no reason to bully him into picking your brother or cousin as his aide for the day. Picking your bridal party and groomsmen is a sensitive issue for many and it’s important that a groom feels he has some input into all decisions relating to people who will share your stage.

What He Wears…

While you may think you may be the definitive fashionista, do let your groom have some say in what he has to wear! After all, he has to feel happy on his wedding day too. While it’s great to share some common elements in overall ensemble, let the groom find clothing and accessories that he really likes, as opposed to what you think he should like! 

Gifts for the Groomsmen

While the bride may have specific ideas on what to gift her bridesmaids, it’s not necessary that the groom shares your enthusiasm! Let the groom decide what’s best for him and his groomsmen after you’ve discussed budgets and other important criteria. The ultimate decision should lie with your groom and like we said earlier, trust and confidence go a long way in making sure there are no misunderstandings.

Sharing the load

Sharing tasks during the wedding is not uncommon. What is fairly common though is for partners to step on each other’s toes when it comes to making decisions. So when you do split responsibilities and things to take care of for the wedding, go over each other’s expectations, your budget and other important information that should be taken into consideration while choosing vendors or any other wedding-related service. Once that’s done, talk frequently, share information but curb the tendency to micro-manage everything. Not only is it annoying, it also slows down the pace of your planning.